Compassionate Confrontation

I started using Compassionate Confrontation in my classroom last Spring and it has been amazing!

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Compassionate Confrontation has not only reduced tattling in my classroom, but it has helped my students to develop skills of self advocacy.

I started by introducing the following sentence stems written on sentence strips to my students.

They say:

When you...

I feel...

Because...

Next time...

I am prepared to...

As I introduce the stems to them, we also brainstorm ways we might use them.  An example I might give, is when someone that sits near you is making noises.  

The student might say,

"When you tap your pencil, I feel distracted, because I need it quiet when I am doing my work.  Next time you make noise, I am prepared to ask Mrs. Malloy to move you to a different spot in the classroom."

I love how much better my students are becoming at solving problems for themselves!  If you give it a try, I'd love to hear about it in the comments below!